Some people complain to me saying, “I don’t have any friends.” I ask them, “Do you ever go out and try to make new friends?”
You see, folks, you cannot sit at home all the time worrying about not having any friends. If you are going to have friends you have to show yourself friendly to other people. Thieves and charlatans and crooks and deceivers are always going to knock on your door and pretend to be your friends — so that they can cheat you or rob you —but friends are not going to come knocking at your door …. you have to go and find them and cultivate them.
If you are going to have friends, then you need to have some form of social character. You have to embrace the notion of socializing.
Now I am a unique and different kind of individual. I don’t have a lot of friends. I am now very selective of who are my friends. I do not trust people very well.
Let me explain!
Back when I had thousands and thousands of dollars to shower on gifts and favors for others, I have more friend and I could count. But shortly after I went bankrupt back in 1978, my friends all disappeared like the morning dew. When I had everything to give, I had friends running out of my ears, but when the darkness of bankrupt despair fell on me, there wasn’t a friend to be found.
Now that I once again have abundance, I am so stingy I creak just by sitting still. At one time I was like, “Come on in, there is plenty for all.” These days I am more like, “If they don’t help pay my bills or sleep in my bed with me, they are not my friends.”
But I am an eccentric — and you are probably a normal person. So your situation is going to be different from mine.
So if you are to have reliable friends … friends who will go through thick and thin with you, the first thing you are going to have to do is find at least 5 things you like about yourself and then do your best to enhance those qualities until they become “Friend Magnets.”
As you work to improve on the things that you like about yourself, you are going to invoke the law of attraction to work for you, and you are going to become a people-magnet, drawing those who observe your good qualities toward you.
Here is a list from which you might pick some of the things you like about yourself ….
- Strong (mentally!)
- Thrifty (not wasteful!)
- Assertive (takes the initiative in a good way!)
- Great listener
- Curiosity (eager to learn!)
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- So that ought to give you something to think about for the rest of the day.