Opinion From The Magnificent Mind Of John
When you hear someone say “I love you,” it can be a powerful moment or it can be a moment when you are tempted to say to yourself, “That is horse shit!”
It can make you feel connected and understood, and it can make you feel valued and appreciated. It can also make you wonder to yourself, “I barely know this person so what is it that they want from me to make them say such shit?”
I have discovered from hard experience that when someone tells you they love you, they are usually interested in one of two things …(1) Getting into your pants or (2) Getting into your wallet.
I have counseled people to always be wary of anyone who approaches with a glaring brilliant but fake smile on their face and their hand stretched out toward you. This might be real affection (which is rare as hens’ teeth) or it might be the smiling spider intent on eating the trusting fly.
For many people, those three little words can also be meaningless. Sure, they might be coming from a place of love, but they don’t always mean what they say. It’s easy to say “I love you” without really meaning it, and when this happens, it can make the phrase feel empty and hollow.
It’s important to remember that saying “I love you” is only a small part of what it means to really love someone. It’s important to show your loved ones that you care in meaningful ways, such as through your actions, spending quality time with them, and showing that you understand and support them.
These actions can speak louder than words and are more likely to convey the true depth of your feelings for someone. So, while “I love you” can be a beautiful expression of affection, it’s important to remember that it’s just a few meaningless words unless it’s backed up by genuine actions.
Take, for example, the son or daughter who has moved into the world and started living lives of their own who never — or painfully rarely ever — call you, visit you, send you a card, invite you to visit …but who will invariable tell you that they love you.
Yes, this miserable state of affairs does exist. This is when the expression of love means absolutely nothing.
People I have known all my life suddenly appear out of nowhere after years of never communicating and then have the nerve to tell me that they are my friend. I am happy to inform those people that friends do not ignore each other for years at a time.